Losing a Parent

  • Grief,  Losing a Parent

    Coincidence or Intervention?

    Am I the only one who struggles with interpreting signs and distinguishing intervention vs. coincidence? Do you ever wonder what it would be like to see one of the angels we read about in the Bible? What if you had someone speak a specific message from God? There would be no need to over-think the message if you knew it came straight from the source! I’m an over-thinker, and anytime I pray for a sign or think something may be a sign, I struggle with the notion of was it a sign or am I trying to make it a sign? Even if we do no have heavenly angels on…

  • the gift of time
    Actions for others,  Losing a Parent

    The Gift of Time is the Best Return on Investment

    Take the Trip During the first week in December 2017, Chris and I were fortunate to have a trip just the two of us.  There were several times we almost canceled the trip.  The logistics of asking people to care for three kids, school, homework, and extracurricular activities almost felt not worth the effort.  We are fortunate that both of our parents were able to help with the kids which afforded us the gift of time away together.  I tried to recharge more than I ever have on a trip.  I was almost a recluse and spent my time reading and enjoying my surroundings. He Was Preparing Me for What…

  • Losing a Child,  Losing a Parent,  Uncategorized,  When You Are Grieving

    It’s Ok to Ask for Help

    When I lost my sister, I was only 22.  That is barely an adult in many measures of the term.  I had just graduated from college and had been working less than 1 month as a real, full-time employee.  This was the first major loss I had experienced.  Chris and I had been dating about 2 years, and I can’t even explain how wonderful he was to be by my side.  I was overcome with emotions.  There were many days when I cried, cried, and cried some more.  Becky and I were very close.  We were alike in may ways.  She was big sister, my protector, and friend.  She was…

  • How to Comfort Someone in Grief,  Losing a Child,  Losing a Parent

    I Know How You Feel…

    I know how you feel…  Let’s erase those words from our go to answers for someone dealing with grief.  While it’s our natural answer to show compassion, most of the time, we really don’t know how someone feels.  Don’t tell your own story in a way that you try to justify why you know how someone feels.   Each of us were uniquely made which means we all experience different emotions and feelings.  Along with this, each loss is different because of a 1001 circumstances.  And, at the end of the day, we all handle loss differently.  Losing a sibling vs. losing a parent, vs. losing a grandparent all “feel” different and…